Father of twins+1 and deep thinker about networks at Interaction Institute for Social Change, Curtis Ogden, has a thoughtful post on the IISC blog that draws some boundaries and installs some furniture in the invisible space between people, the relationships. Curtis draws on anthropology's "moral spaces"--Autonomy, Community, and Divinity (don't be put off by your preconceptions of this word)--and applies them here. I think they work--his "few thoughts" on what to do with the insight:
- Autonomy: Differentiation. Create the opportunity for people to individually speak/write about their own hopes, fears, skills, etc. Don’t force agreement. Encourage differences of opinion. Create opportunities for individual thinking.
- Community: Integration. Direct people’s attention and conversation to what they share with others. Help facilitate agreement. Point out shared interests beyond differences of opinions. Create opportunities for a group to work together toward some common goal.
- Divinity: Elevation. Share stories of moral exemplars (virtue can trigger feelings of uplift). Have people think/speak about places and events that are “sacred” and expressive of their deepest values. Play inspiring music. Read poetry. Meet/immerse people in the natural world.